Susan Spess Shay

Still playing make believe.


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Happy New Year!

I’m so excited! Know what you’re getting? (I’m getting one, too!)

Hints: It’s big. It’s full. You can do anything you want with it. And you get to open it tonight.

Give up?

It’s a Brand New Year!

I’m kind of weird about it, but I love starting the new year. Having 365 days I can fill any way I want is exciting.

I know, so many things in our lives feel as if they’re set in stone. But if you don’t like it, YOU are the only one who can change it. And this (now!) is absolutely the time to start that change.

It isn’t easy, but if you stop to think about it, it’s absolutely worth all the trouble it causes. So, how do you go about changing something?

  1. Decide what you want to change. (It’s best for me not to be too specific or too general, but you must do it the way that works for you.)
  2. Research ways to make that change and decide on your best course. (Be flexible enough so if one way doesn’t work out, you can try another.)
  3. Talk about it as you go so you don’t shock the people around you too much.
  4. Write it down. (I’m big on goal setting.)
  5. Post it to your vision board.

I’ll do this in several areas of my life: Spiritual, Health, Home, Writing, Personal Relationships.

Want an example? Okay, I want to lose weight this year. (Health)

  • Decide approximately how much I want to lose.
  • Research weight loss programs. (I’m hoping to find a Christian based program, but I might decide on Weight Watchers.)
  • Research ways to circumvent problems. (When I’m hungry between meals, what can I eat that’s not a Plan Wrecker? What can I keep for Mindless Munching that’s not a PW?)
  • Research exercise plans. (Best ones for burning calories!)
  • Resolve that no matter what the celebration or what anyone else has cooked what’s going on in my world, I’m going to stick with my plan.

This is hard for me, because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feeling if I don’t eat their goodies. And I feel as if I’m no fun to be around if I don’t eat like everyone else. 😦

  • Tell the people around me what I’m doing. (Reserve the right to whack the back of the head if someone answers, “good, you need to.”)
  • Stay away from people I know will try to sabotage me, no matter how much fun they are.
  • Write down my objective and strategic plan so I can’t fool myself or change my mind.
  • Post a picture to my vision board. Either an old picture of me before weight gain or a picture of someone else who looks the way I want to.

What’s a vision board? Whatever you want it to be. Mine is a poster board with pictures or a couple of words about my goals. The trick is to hang it where you’ll see it every day. Then remember to look at it, so when you get back to your everyday grind, your goals won’t slip your mind.

I have a feeling mine’s going to be pretty full this year. 🙂

Question: Do you make resolutions or set goals for the New Year? Will you share one or two?

 


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Goals or Resolutions?

Do you make goals or resolutions?

I heard several people say this year, “Resolutions are just something to break,” and, “Resolutions will be broken before you can get them written down.”

I don’t know many people who’ll admit to making resolutions.

Lots people I know set goals for the year. For some reason, there seems to be a more positive spin on that word than resolution. Since goals can be made a little more flexible (?) they’re easier to keep. Goals are easily readjusted to fit what’s really going on in your life rather than just what you’re guessing will be going on.

Okay. Makes sense.

I never was one to make resolutions or set goals until I started writing seriously. Then it just seemed to go with the territory, so I started setting goals. Do I reach them?

Mmm, yeah. Some of them. But not all. I figure if you reach all your goals, you’re setting the bar too low, so I make it a point not to ring the bell on every one. And if I miss by a little this year, it gives me something attainable for next year.

I’m not a person who wants to write 50 books a year–my brain doesn’t work that fast–although I’d love to be able to write that many. I usually get through two or three if I’m working really hard.

Right now I have a couple outlined for the coming year. Will I write them out? Mmmm, maybe. Right now it looks as if I will, and then I’ll make a vision board so I can see them on my wall each time I walk in the office, but who know what’ll happen tomorrow?

I’d love to write the kind of book that would make people say, “Have you read Susan’s book? You really should!” (I always did have a big imagination.)

But hey! Somebody once said, “If you can imagine it, you can do it,” didn’t they? I’m not sure who that was, but I like the guy 😉 because I can imagine a lot!

Another TC question–what’s your #1 resolution?

Pop on over and log in on the poll. I’d like to find out what other people are trying.