Susan Spess Shay

Still playing make believe.


Happy Memorial Day!

How’s your MD weekend going? Mine’s been fantastic! Way more fun than a Memorial Day I spend at Old Mannford Ramp. 🙂

What’s made my weekend so great? Well, for one thing I got to go to worship for the first time this month. (Terminally Curious breaking in here–Does anybody else really miss worshiping with others when you’ve missed several in a row, even though you worship by yourself? Is Susan just weird? Both? Shutting up now.)


Back to this Memorial Day. We have silk flower arrangements for our immediate family and keep them at the office between MDs. This year Sister Debbie, her adorable granddaughters and I decorated the graves of our glorious dead in C-Town’s cemetery on Thursday. Those little girls, ages 4 and 6, are full of energy! And they’re so much fun. I had no idea going to a graveyard could be that exciting.

They helped do everything. Carry flowers, put them in vases and tie down the ones on the headstones. If they could drive, they wouldn’t need Deb and me at all. LOL!

I’ve told you before about the one little headstone that touches my heart.


Remember?  I ran past their grave Sunday after church. Here’s what I found this year–

bennie-and-sussie  I think that’s poison ivy all around it.


I know how busy the cemetery caretakers are just before MD. Hopefully, they’ll get to Sussie and Bennie’s corner and clean it up some more.

Or I could take them home with me. 🙂

♥ ♥ ♥

Hominy does a wonderful job putting Old Glory in their cemetery for Memorial Day. Hominy-flags




Starting last year, C-Town’s Mayberry Foundation took on the gargantuan task of putting flags on our veterans’ graves.   BTW: If you click on the link and see the picture of a pretty blonde talking to a little boy, that’s my sister-in-law, Julie, and my nephew. The Spess Gang has some good looking genetics going for them, don’t they?

Even though C-Town has always done a fantastic job of lining our main street with flags for special occasions, flagging the cemetery for Memorial Day kind of fell through the cracks . . . until Mayberry sunk her teeth into the project.

Now Junior Ambassadors guided by Mayberry Foundation take care of it. I’m extremely grateful to them for doing it!!!

I just need to get my Granddad Reeves added to their flagging list.

This is from Mayberry’s facebook page.

1 mayberry foundation

The Mayberry Foundation and C-Town on Facebook, too.

Question: Do you decorate to honor your loved ones for MD?

If you don’t, do you think it’s a bad idea or just not important?

Care to share why?

Oh, you can read a little about Decoration Day history here– Association for the Beautification of the Graves of the Glorious Dead

See y’all later!


Still playing make believe after all these years.



2016–So It Begins

A new year. A do over!
I love fresh starts and do overs, don’t you?
Of course, I loved 2015. I had a grandson born, did a little traveling with G-Man, had some personal growth and had a great time writing about (which is like living in) my imaginary town, Jordan Valley.
But now it’s 2016, and I’m thrilled to think what might happen.
Hopefully, I’ll finish and polish the four books I have set in JV and can begin looking into publishing them.
I don’t know if I’ll look for an agent or go another route for publication, but even thinking about that has me bouncing on my tiptoes. 😀
Am I making a goal list? Nope. I’ve learned I’m a little contrary when faced with a to-do list, so not going to happen. Besides, I’d either lose it or get mad and burn it one day. 
I’ve read that if you don’t have a goal you’ll never know when you reach it, but I’m not sure that’s true. I hope I’m not so far gone, I don’t know when I finish what I start.
What do you have planned for this year? Are you a goal setter? If you are, do you care to share?
♥ ♥ ♥


Fall/Autumn/Best Time of the Year!

It’s here!

It isn’t a calendar or a clock that tells me. It’s the feeling when I go outside. It’s #2 son’s birthday and football and the fair.

It’s the color of leaves and the frost on the punkin.

What? you might ask, but I bet you already know.

It’s Fall. Autumn. Heaven Time. (Whatever you call it.) And I’m so excited! Its got me knitting and cleaning and loving life.

The best thing? Caramel Cashew Popcorn. D-E-L-I-C-I-O-U-S, buttery, sinfully wonderful goodness. I learned how to eat it (by the ton) and finally how to make it myself when I lived in Pryor Creek. Friend Joy Mobley shared the magical recipe 😀 and over the years I’ve tweaked it just a little.

It’s great with coffee for breakfast. Not exactly the breakfast of champions, but it DEEEELICIOUS! It’s good for lunch. Heck, it’s even good for dinner.

Think I’ll refill my coffee and have another kernel–or a bucketful!



Now, I’m wondering . . . what’s your favorite Autumn treat?


2015–What Else is New?

Happy New Year!


How many times have you heard that lately? How many times have you said it? So . . . what does it mean? Is it a command? images

Have a happy year, or else! Got me?

Or a question? imagesTYTQ746F

It’s a new year. So, are you happy now?

And what’s it talking about being new? Me? Bahahaha! Not hardly!  susans-a-baby   In this new year, what new and wonderful things are you planning? Trips to take? Books to read? (I can suggest a few if you need help.) *wink*

Are there new dishes you want to cook? (I’m going to try some wok cooking.) Hobbies–arts and crafts– you want to try? (Is there anything I haven’t tried?)

Or maybe you’re planning to complete a marathon? (I’m not.) Run a 5k race?  (I’m not doing that, either.)

I am going to try to complete something that I’ve failed at before–reading through the Bible in a year. I’m not making any promises, but I’m going to try.

And I’m joining Beth Moore and a couple of my sibs memorizing scriptures this year. Instead of jumping around for my scripts, this year I’m going to take several in a row, starting with Mary’s Song in Luke 1 beginning at verse 46–“And Mary said, my soul glorifies the Lord.”

Then in two weeks, I’ll quote that one, and memorize 47–“And my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,” and so on.

What are you in 2015 so it’ll be different than 2014? Terminally Curious wants to know! 😀

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Do You Have . . .

. . . Time?

This is the time of year when goal setting is a popular thing to do. Sometimes we call it New Years Resolutions, but it means the same thing.

Even if you aren’t thinking about setting goals, the thought just might have flitted through your mind. 😀

But no matter how many goals we set for ourselves, most of us hear ourselves saying at some time or other, “I don’t have time!”

Since we’re all allotted the same 60 seconds for ever minute, 60 minutes for every hour, 24 hours for every day and 7 days for every week, I figure it’s a matter of choice.

Whether we make those choices or allow someone else make them for us is immaterial. It’s OUR time!

There are classes to take that teach us to set the right goals and how to keep them. In fact, I had an offer for one in my email box this morning. But I’m afraid the class was a little price-y, especially since I know what it must be about. Make a plan and live by it. Don’t let anyone else control your time and your life.

Do it.

Just Do It.

Go! And! Do! It!

Then you get this kind of feed back (from me, at least)–how do I find time? When can I do it? How can I control it myself?

The answer? Well . . . I haven’t taken that class (yes, I’m a cheapskate)  but from what I’ve seen, it’s simple.

Don’t do what feels good. Don’t do what you like all the time. Don’t allow yourself to slip into that rut where you do what you’ve always done because you’ll get what you’ve always got. (Not great grammar but you get the idea.)

J. R. R. Tolkien said it better than I do.

Very simply and succinctly he said, “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”

He makes it sound so easy, doesn’t he? Just decide and do it. But other people lay claims to our time, I can’t be the only person with a job. Right? Or a husband. Or kiddos. Or friends. Or hobbies. And I want to keep them all! So I’m thrilled that they all claim some of my time.

Doesn’t leave much time for goals I’ve set.

What does the Bible say about time and setting goals?

Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV– There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2 a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,

 1 Corinthians 9:26 says, 26 So I do not run without a goal. I fight like a boxer who is hitting something—not just the air. —NCV

So should I set goals? And to what extent do I adhere to them?

Should I rigidly schedule my time?

Stop chatting with a friend mid-word when it’s time to do something else? Grab the dishes from the table when it’s time, even before the family is finished eating?

If I tried being that exacting, I probably wouldn’t last a full day before I built a fire in the backyard and used the goals/schedule as fodder for it.

So how far is a person to go? I’m not sure. Even after all these years, I’m still trying to figure it all out.

Here are a few blogs about goal setting I liked. See what you think–

Rick Warren 


Michael Hyatt

When you’ve read them (if you have time) come back and let me know what you think. What’s your best goal (resolution) setting tip?