Susan Spess Shay

Still playing make believe.



It’s getting to that time of the year when we look at the goals we set at the beginning of the year to see how we’ve done. Or, if you failed to set goals (like me) then it’s time to start thinking about goals you want to set for next year, if you want to set any.

I realize some people don’t, and they usually get along as well or better than those who do. So why set them?

For me, it’s a way to measure what I’ve accomplished over the past year. (And remember what I wanted to do.) Sometimes it’s a way to frustrate myself to pieces.

How do I frustrate myself?

  • By setting unattainable goals. Such as writing 50 books in a year. No way I could do that and have enough time to breathe, too.
  • By setting a goal that depends on anyone besides me. If I could control other people, I wouldn’t have to set goals. I could just work it.
  • By setting goals that are too specific. If I don’t leave some thing to my imagination, I’m really not gonna want to play.

The best ways I’ve found to reach my goals?

  • Keep them where I can see them. The year I posted my goals on the wall of my office and actually looked at them, I accomplished more than ever.
  • Envision what I want to accomplish (eventually) and set the goals that will get me there.
  • Stay on guard against the siren’s song. If I want to write a book, I might set a goal of taking a class in grammar to make it easier for me. But if I enjoy it so much that I keep taking more and more classes and never write, I’ve listened to the siren.
  • KISS. Keep It Simple Sweetheart. If it gets too intricate, I’m a gonner.
  • Be good to me. Celebrate when I reach a goal, but never be hard on myself it I don’t. I can catch myself more easily with honey than vinegar!

That’s what I know about goal setting in a nutshell. I’m just about ready to start setting mine for 2012.

Want to share your secrets for goal setting? Or goal keeping?

I can use all the help I can get. 🙂